Today, I did a quick internet search (step 1) on The Rhema Project. I noticed that a young woman (Abbey Weist) had featured one of our videos on her PSA Digital Story project (step 2).

Thanks Abbey!

Reading more on her twitter feed I saw another video produced by Help a Child of India. on female infanticide (step 3).

Watching the video I was so happy to see Dr. Pari Titus and Masi from Bethel AFC sharing their story. As many of you may not know Dr. Titus was one of the most helpful people we met when we began to better understand the issue of female gendercide and how to help change a cultural attitude when we started The Rhema Project in January 2008.

Bethel AFC has been a key partner from day 1. For over 50 years they have been doing amazing work in South India.

Seeing many of the familiar faces in the Baby Home as well as knowing the young girls that shared their stories reaffirmed the great works of the staff at Bethel AFC.

We are greatly encourage that other NGOs like Help a Child of India are working with organizations like Bethel AFC to bring value to the girl-child and end the practice of female gendercide.

Donate let 9,000 miles (America to India) separate you from connecting with the girls of India.

Watch. Enjoy. Learn how you too can be a part of the story here or even here!

I believe Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn captured the challenge of female gendercide in India today when he penned these comments over 50 years ago.

“It was granted me to carry away from my prison years on my bent back, which nearly broke beneath its load, this essential experience:

how a human being becomes evil and how good.

In the intoxication of youthful successes I had felt myself to be infallible, and I was therefore cruel. In the surfeit of power I was a murderer and an oppressor.

In my most evil moments I was convinced that I was doing good, and I was well supplied with systematic arguments.

And it was only when I lay there rotting on prison straw that I sensed within myself the first stirrings of good.

Gradually it was disclosed to me that the line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either—but right through every human heart—and through all human hearts.

…”
- Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Indian culture has devalued the life of the female for generations and her death is somehow justified as good (for the betterment of all). We have also witnessed the key to transformation is not through the state (government) or the classes (caste system) but through changing the heart of a father and mother toward their daughter.

When we focus on this the cultural changes are amazing to see.

Please join us!

Brian McLaren shared this recount in his book, Why Did Jesus, Moses, the Buddha, and Mohammed Cross the Road?

Christian mission begins with friendship—not utilitarian friendship, the religious version of network marketing—but genuine friendship, friendship that translates love for neighbors in general into knowing, appreciating, liking, and enjoying this or that neighbor in particular. This knowing-in-particular then motivates us to protect our neighbor when he or she is under threat, as a little Rwandan girl understood: just before she was brutally murdered during the genocide, she said to her slayer, “If you knew me, you would not kill me.”

I truly believe this is the simple truth on why we have seen a remarkable change in the cultural attitude of many Indian’s toward the girl-child. Our Prenatal & Newborn Care initiative causes the decision-makers (usually husbands and his parents) to “get to know” his daughter and their granddaughter. When this happens they no longer kill it but love her.

On May 12, 2013 many parts of the world (including India) will celebrate Mother’s Day to honor mothers, motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers on society.

Yet in India today, millions of mothers are shamed and humiliated or even beaten to death for birthing a daughter. They are often forced to have a late term abortion after an illegal sex determination ultrasound is preformed that identifies the fetus as a girl-baby. Nearly one million times each year they must helplessly watch their newborn daughters being ripped away from them and then watch them being killed by their in-laws simply because they were not a boy-baby. They and their daughters only eat once the men and boys have had their fill. Their daughters are deemed worthless and a burden to the family. Many times their daughters are not allowed to attend school in order to fetch water and firewood for the family. Because they are a burden to the family a bridal dowry of 5 to 10 times a family’s income is demanded by the groom’s family to compensate them for their “loss.”

The psychological trauma is overwhelming to most young Indian mothers. After watching this story continually repeat itself in their lives sometimes they too participate in the ending of their baby daughter’s life. Over and over, we have been told by Indian mothers

“Why would I want my precious daughter to endure what I have had to – a short time of pain (death) is much better than a lifelong time of hardship and suffering.”

However, a new day is coming for mothers and their daughters in India because of the tireless efforts of The Rhema Project’s programs in India. The picture (above) is becoming more commonplace in the villages where we work. Recently we have shared the story of Rahda and how education has given her and her daughter new hope.

Next Sunday, treat your mother with honor and respect. Thank her for what she has done for you. Kindness and respect are learned behaviors that we are attempting to model and demonstrate to the mothers and daughters of India.

Maybe, in addition to a gift of chocolate, flowers or dinner out for your mom, you might consider a donation to The Rhema Project that will greatly impact the life of a girl-baby and her mother forever.

Recently there have been several bloggers post articles questioning the value of education in improving the fate and value of the Indian girl-child. Their premise is the 2011 Indian census has revealed that there is no difference in the sex ratios of the educated and illiterate of India. In addition, in some “highly educated” communities the rate of female feticide is much higher than the national average.

How can this be true?

Simply, they are coming to this conclusion by looking back into time and not to the future. The bridal dowry is the primary reason for parents to commit female gendercide on their daughters through infant infanticide or sex determination feticide. For many parents educating a daughter means they will have to pay the groom’s family a higher price as the result of “matching” their educated daughter with an educated son-in-law. For the parents to keep their wealth it is better not to have a daughter. To gain wealth it is much much better to have a son.

However, when you study the impact an education has on the girl-child and her future family the value is profound. This is why The Rhema Project financially supports educational initiatives for the Indian girl-child.

An educated girl-child;

1. Has a better understanding of who she is.
2. Is less likely to be isolated and abused.
3. Increases her earning power by 10 to 15% for each year she remains in school.
4. Is less likely to be married as a child-bride (under 16).
5. Has an average of 3.2 children versus 6.1 children of the typically Indian woman.
6. Is much more likely to sacrifice in order to send her children to school.
7. Is much less likely to kill her newborn and unborn daughters.

The Rhema Project has made the strategic decision to invest in the education of the girl-child by financially supporting existing schools and village tuition centers (after-school study halls). For approximately $100 per year we can fund the tuition costs, book fees and purchase her school uniforms when she attends primary school. Secondary school costs approximately $250 and a community college or vocational trade school is $500 per year.

When you look into the future of the Indian girl-child, receiving a good education is her very best friend.

We first met this remarkable woman last month when we were visiting a remote village in Tamil Nadu, India. She is a woman of great courage and influence even though all of the “cultural markers” in her life would tell you otherwise.

First, she is a woman. Many times and especially in remote villages of Tamil Nadu are not valued even by their immediate families. Young girls are the property of their parents and their future will be determined and marriage arranged by their parents. They have little to no voice.

Second, Esther has never attended school. She is illiterate and cannot write her name. Her parents were of the poorest of the poor and never saw the value of sending her to school. So, as a young girl she spent most days collecting firewood and fetching water.

Third, she has never been married. Many girls in India are never given a last name. When young they are often referred to as “the daughter of…” and when their marriage is arranged they become “the wife of… from…” Her value is never her own it is derived by her caste and family status.

Finally, Esther is a Christian. In a country where the vast majority of people are Hindu, becoming a Christ-follower comes at a very high cost. Most times you will not only loose your birth and property rights but your family will disown you.

Yet, in spite of, or maybe it is because of these factors, Esther has become one of the most influential people in her village as well as four neighboring villages. She is a pastor who shares her faith by asking others to read to her scripture and then quietly explains to them what they have just read. Esther demonstrates her faith by rescuing unwanted baby girls from certain death by pleading with their birth parents not to kill them.

She does this by caring for her friends and neighbors right where they are but loves them to not leave them there.

This is why we were so excited to have the opportunity to partner with Esther and start our Prenatal & Newborn Care program in this area. Our surveys have revealed that there are hundreds of baby girls killed each and every year just in this region alone. Most just like Esther except she was allowed to live.

I can think of no one more equipped to turn this culture upside down than Esther. We have so much to learn from her.

We always attempt to leverage existing resources to maximize change for the Indian girl child. Even in the most rural villages in India you will find a primary government school offering education to children through the 5th standard (grade). In most villages we have been able to increase the number of girls attending school by drilling a bore well in the community. Our agreement. Everyone gets free and clean drinking water – the girls get to attend school because they no longer need to walk to neighboring villages for water each day.

Most Indian girls that are allowed to attend primary school are not allowed to continue past 5th standard because the secondary school (6th thru 12th standard) is typically only in a larger village that may be several miles away. Even if a public bus might stop in the village many parents are not “interested” in paying for bus tokens for their girls to continue their education.

So, WE BUY BIKES. Each girl that graduates from the 5th standard with good marks is given a brand new bicycle so she can ride to school. They now have a new-found freedom and the chance to leverage their education for a much better tomorrow.

The Genocide of Indian Daughters – Inside Story Jan 11, 2013

Supreme Court judges in India have summoned the health secretaries in seven states over a worrying fall in the number of young girls in India.

They are demanding details about clinics flouting the Pre-Conception and Pre-Natal Diagnostic Techniques Act – to determine the sex of unborn babies – with potentially fatal consequences.

The judges are blaming what they call rampant foeticide and infanticide, and they say the mindset of parents and society need to change.

“The people [district medical officers] who are supposed to be enforcing the [Pre-Conception and Pre-Natal Diagnostic Techniques Act] they themselves have the same patriarchal mindset and they don’t feel that it’s wrong to kill a girl child in the desire for a boy, naturally they won’t go and prosecute anybody. Add to it corruption [within the medical profession].”

- Mitu Khurana, a pediatrician and a women’s rights activist

The UN children’s charity UNICEF says the culture of favouring males in India is costing the lives of millions of young girls.

The agency says more than 2,000 illegal abortions are being carried out every single day, and it is dramatically altering the balance of the population.

It warns: “Decades of sex determination tests and female foeticide that has acquired proportions are finally catching up with states in India. This is only the tip if the demographic and social problems confronting India in the coming years.”

Speaking in April 2011, Manmohan Singh, the Indian prime minister, called for a crusade against the widespread practice of foeticide and infanticide.

“The falling child sex ratio is an indictment of our social values. Our girls and women have done us proud in classrooms, in boardrooms and on the sports field. It is a national shame for us that despite this, female foeticide and infanticide continues.”

The 1991 Indian census showed there were 945 girls for every 1,000 boys, aged up to six. Ten years later, it dipped even further to just 914 girls for every 1,000 boys.

But that is just the average. The figures are far worse in some states.

The 2011 census found there were 830 girls for every 1,000 boys in the northern state of Haryana. It was 846 in neighbouring Punjab state. And in the national capital territory of Delhi the figure was 866.

“The main problem really is that parents don’t want girl children. As long as that underlying societal attitude continues, it’s very, very difficult especially in a country like India where all kinds of laws are not implemented properly and flouted, to find a purely legal solution to what is a societal problem.”

- Sadanand Dhume, a fellow of the American Enterprise Institute

India has very strict abortion laws. Until 1971, terminating pregnancies was only allowed if the mother’s life was at risk. Other exceptions were then allowed: for fetuses with potential birth defects; for babies conceived through rape; and for pregnancies in unmarried girls below 18.

In 1994 the government passed a new law making it illegal to use ultrasound scans to determine the sex of the baby – a crime carrying a jail term of up to three years.

So what needs to be done to change the centuries-old mindset of favouring boys?

Joining the Inside Story discussion with presenter Shiulie Ghosh are guests: Mitu Khurana, a pediatrician and a women’s rights activist; Suhas Chakma, the director of the Asian Centre for Human Rights; Sadanand Dhume, a journalist/writer and a resident fellow of the American Enterprise Institute.

Thanks to Dr. Vipin Kalia (TRP board member) and his connections in India we have the opportunity to visit with an Indian doctor working in Haryana, India. This state has one of the highest rates of female gendercide in all of India.

It is our hope to be able to share our successes so that they too can implement the Prenatal & Newborn Care initiative in villages in Haryana.

Will keep you posted!

I am glad we highlight and celebrate the encouragement of adoption during the entire month of November. It seems November is the perfect month to not only express thanks to the adoptive paren
ts but for the joy the children have brought into their new families.

In our immediate family, I not only had the privilege of becoming Shannon and Ginger’s adoptive dad but we also have an amazing grandson that came into our family when he was first born.

This is also the opportunity we are attempting to support with The Rhema Project. As crazy as it sounds, there are good Indian families that are waiting to adopt an abandoned Indian baby girl. And, there are cradle babies that are turned away by qualified orphanages that are approved to complete domestic adoptions.

WHY? The government in its attempt to prevent corruption limits the amount an orphanage can charge for its adoptive services – it “costs” the orphanage approximately $500 more to rescue and care for the abandoned baby girl and complete and monitor the adoption process. So, the orphanage must limit the number of adoption strictly for financial reasons.

Good news. The government does not limit The Rhema Project from contributing to an orphan fund that can be then be used by the orphanage of offset the financial difference. This also reinforces our strategy that Indians must lead and “own” the solution to end the gendercide of baby girls.

During the month of November, for those wanted to share in the experience and support the adoption of an Indian baby girl to an Indian family can make a contribution (any amount) on our website (www.therhemaproject.org) or mail a charitable gift (note adoption) to The Rhema Project PO Box 10013 South Bend, IN 46680